A recent discussion raised the question: Why are ex-Bahá’ís so bitter? Are they simply struggling with personal grievances, misunderstandings, or is there something deeper at play?
Evaluating the Responses
In the discussion thread, most responses suggested that ex-Bahá’ís leave because:
They were hurt by individuals within the community.
They struggled with ego or personal shortcomings.
They lacked patience in the Faith’s development.
However, few responses acknowledged the systemic or doctrinal reasons why people leave, such as concerns about gender equality, institutional rigidity, or the way authority is exercised within the Faith. Many former Bahá’ís describe feeling dismissed, unsupported, or judged when they expressed doubts. If the Bahá’í Faith encourages independent investigation of truth, then their experiences should be engaged with sincerely, rather than dismissed as bitterness.
Patterns in Communication Outside of the Bahá’í Faith
The way Bahá’ís represent themselves outside of Bahá’í spaces is equally important. Some engage positively and appreciatively in casual discussions, yet in political or social debates, their approach can shift toward being dismissive or confrontational. When discussing the Bahá’í Faith, Bahá’u’lláh’s words are often used to correct others rather than to inspire.
If someone struggling with faith encountered this style of communication, would they feel uplifted, or would they feel invalidated? Would a seeker exploring the Faith find an open and welcoming discussion, or would they perceive a community unwilling to engage in self-reflection?
The Consequences of This Approach
A communication style that is judgmental, dismissive, or defensive can:
Push struggling Bahá’ís away, making them feel isolated rather than supported.
Discourage seekers from exploring the Faith, if Bahá’ís appear unwilling to reflect on their community’s shortcomings.
Reinforce a culture of deflection, where those who leave are always assumed to be at fault rather than considering that the community itself may bear responsibility.
Bahá’u’lláh’s Teachings on Conduct and Understanding Why People Leave
Bahá’u’lláh provides clear guidance on how people should engage with others, especially when representing the Faith:
Avoid backbiting and judgment:“Backbiting quencheth the light of the heart, and extinguisheth the life of the soul.”
Lead with humility, not correction:"So blessed is the scholar who does not take pride in his knowledge over others, and good is the doer of good who does not mock those who disobey."
Acknowledge that the greatest tests often come from within the Bahá’í community itself:“My affliction is not my prison, nor what has befallen me from my enemies, but the actions of my loved ones who attribute themselves to me and commit what makes my heart and my pen lament.”
If Bahá’ís are serious about preventing more people from leaving, there must be a change in how they engage with others—through love, patience, and sincerity, rather than defensiveness.
How Bahá’ís Can Better Represent the Faith
To create a community that is both inviting and supportive, some key principles can be emphasized:
✅ Listen more, assume less—Engage ex-Bahá’ís with curiosity rather than defensiveness.
✅ Encourage, not correct—Use Bahá’u’lláh’s teachings to inspire, not as tools to reprimand.
✅ Acknowledge the role of the Bahá’í community—Recognize that people leave not just because of personal struggles, but because of how they are treated.
✅ Speak with patience and wisdom—Words should reflect unity, understanding, and openness to dialogue.
Final Thoughts
If Bahá’ís truly believe in the transformative power of Bahá’u’lláh’s teachings, then those teachings should be reflected not just in theory, but in practice—in how they treat those who leave, those who question, and those who seek. Conduct is the most powerful invitation to the Faith—or the greatest barrier.
How can the Bahá’í community foster an environment where fewer people feel the need to leave? What changes in discourse and approach would better reflect Bahá’u’lláh’s vision for unity and justice?
Source : https://www.reddit.com/r/bahaiGPT/comments/1ivoznx/why_do_some_people_leave_the_baháí_faith_a/
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